causes of my divorce?
Saturday, March 31st, 2007
the above bulleted items were the rules that were set for my S2BX when we tried talking again. i took this from the notes of the things that he wanted to cover.
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√ i made her feel alone and insignificant
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√ was i not capable to understand and support M?
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√ was i also feeling a sense of loss leaving LA?
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√ when i left nor-cal for LA, i was escaping my 18 years of life in nor-cal. did i have problems that i came back? never wanted to
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√ M and my family relations ate at me.
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√ M feels: alone, unloved, unsupported, unfulfilled.
was i lost in … & my own feelings of (alone, unloved) to recognize what i needed to provide for her?
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√ due to my upbringing, i never built the skills to love and support someone. it was always something i dreamed about as a child and young adult, but no practice
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√ M had reasons to turn to … her “addiction” but what was my reasons for my “addiction”
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√ was i not able to face my “pains” from my past when i grew up in nor-cal
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√ did M and my family relationship bother me or worry me?
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√ i know i was unhappy with my career when we first came up here. i really felt like i made a huge mistake (money, M moving from LA, M’s family, owning home quicker, boss who loved me, LA life, away from my family, etc.)
